看護師は見た!『死ぬまえに後悔することTOP5』

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こんにちは、終活社長の竹内です。

今日は終末期医療でたくさんの患者さんを看とってきた、オーストラリア人看護師のBronnie Wareさんがブログでかたられた、死をまえにした患者さんが後悔することのTOP5を紹介します。



後悔することTOP5

1. 人目をきにせず、自分らしく生きればよかった。

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. 働きすぎた。

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. 自分の感情に素直になればよかった。

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”




4. 友だちとのつながりを大切にするべきだった。

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. もっと人生をたのしむべきだった。

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

最後に…

人生の最期で後悔しないように生きていきましょう。

What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die? (theguardian 2012/02/01




まとめ

「死ぬまえに後悔することTOP5」いかがでしたでしょうか。

いまの自分をつくっているものは、自分が過去に選択したことの積みかさねです。

「いまのままだと、死ぬとき後悔するかも・・・」と考えたひとは、今日から自分が選択することを少しずつでも変えてみてください。

過去のできごとを変えることはできませんが、過ぎたことに対しての自分のあり方はいまから変えることはできます。

「死ぬときに後悔すること25」でも紹介しましたが、国籍や人種がちがっても、死をまえにして後悔する内容はほとんど変わらないんですね。

死ぬときに後悔すること25
死ぬときに後悔すること25
終末期医療の専門家、大津秀一先生が書かれた「死ぬときに後悔すること25」を紹介します。9割以上の人は死ぬときに後悔していると言われています。元気なときは気づかなくても限られた時間を意識したとき、先送りにしてきた希望や願いに後悔するそうです。

わたしも今をよりよく自分らしく生きることを意識して、後悔の少ない人生を送りたいと思います。

今日も最後までお付きあいいただきありがとうございました!



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